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[Cassandre]

Haha, woow Evan.
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[Marx-Paragon]

i dont think she was insulting your parenting skills, i believe she was just refering to the fact that divorce is the hardest on the children involved. you know how stressed you are, imagine how cammilia feels.

i dont know why this dude is making so much trouble over a kid that he has no right to, and has no right to riase.
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[Cassandre]

And has no idea to raise...When I asked him to feed her once, he just gave her a bottle of milk! She's four, and he was treating her like she was less than a year old! It was in a baby bottle. God, I hate that Asstard.

Oh, and we're in France now, have been for a while, I was sleeping with Cammilia though, jet lag. yeah, I was right. I'm swamped with guys who want to go out with me. I told my uncle Gino, he's one of the Italian members of my family, I told him not to let any people who say that Camille sent them. So, we've turned them all away, because she has guarenteed that they'll have access if they say that she sent them.

So, now she's pissed at me for not dating any body, and then I told her that technically, I'm still married.
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[Rune174]

I hope you two have some fun while your there. I'm just glad your family is there to help you when you needed it. Its more than most would do for anybody these days. -pats shoulder-
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[Cassandre]

*hugs him*
Your a wuss if you don't hug people Rune!! *^^*
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[Rune174]

I respect boundaries.... But... if you insist -hugs tightly- ^_^
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[Ashton Gray]

Well well, it certainly seems as though you've had an intresting several hours since I've been asleep. I suppose that's the price you pay for having a family that cares about you during times like these. I'd love to meet a family like yours someday. And I can't help but feel for your little girl right now too. It's nothing against you, your parenting skills or your family, but as someone who lived through a divorce at a young age, like her, I know it can be a difficult time for her. Confusion, distress, sadness, I know all these feelings and more can be present for her right now and I know it's not a fun time. Then there's you, who must be feeling it even moreso because you understand what's going on more than she does. And you have the added responsability of being the one who must deal with this situation the most. Just remember through all this how lucky you are and to count your blessings that you have family and friends to help you through this, as opossed to those who have to go through times like these alone. And above all, don't forget about your little girl. She still needs a mother and right now that's you, whether you're her aunt or not. Don't forget to take some time to be with her. Play a game, watch a movie, have a meal together or just let her fall asleep with you. It's important she still know you still love and care for her and it's important that you show her that. And when all is said and done, when the day is gone and you're falling asleep, remember: You are going to win this and you're not in it alone.
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[JohnnyPsycho]

Wow, Cassandre, you managed to jump over to a whole different continent and get your family involved all while I was either sleeping or working. I suddenly feel like I should be doing more with my life...

On a more serious note, I hope things work out for you, Cassandre, and it's good to hear you have so much support from your family.

As for the whole mafia thing, I know I have some Italian family myself (not directly blood related, mostly cousins and such), and there's always been a rumor that a few great-uncles were in that sort of "business" themselves. I doubt I would ever ask for any favors from them, but it's somehow nice to know that one has those kinds of connections if necessary.
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[Cassandre]

Thank you all, and she does know that we care for her. I sleep in her room every night, and we play together, and I spend all my spare time with her when I'm not at meetings with my lawyer. When she's sleeping is when I go onto my laptop.

Today was very...Interesting, to say the least. Cammilia found all of my old fursuits, even the ones I had when I was her age, and demanded we play dress up. I was in my Cassandre fursuit, she was in her new Andrea Mirvau fursuit, and Gino, yes, Gino, was in a pink horse fursuit. Cammilia chosse his fursuit, and forced him to wear it the entire day.

If you wonder, Andrea Mirvau was my imganiary friend, who was a bear. My aunt made a fursuit that looked like her, and gave it to me.
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[Marx-Paragon]

well im glad your caring for her so well your sister clearly made the smart decision choosing you.
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[Cassandre]

Well, everyone agrees that she did, and if actually given a choice, she would have chosen me anyway. She didn't have a choice at the time though...Camille, my younger sister, was in REHAB at the time.
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[JohnnyPsycho]

Dang, Assandra, you've certainly been very open about your personal life in here. Not complaining, it's just sort of unusual in some respects...
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[Cassandre]

heh, yeah, I realize this. But, I figure you guys won't try to [word censored] me or something, probably considering my family, and the fact I'd kill you myself.
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[Cassandre]

Well you had better not be insulting my parenting skills, because if you are, then just clear off.
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[Poecilotheria_27]

I know very little about your parenting skills. I'm referring more to your way of going about it and the attitude you hold while its this child that needs you to be something you're not being.

[Shadow_Twisted]

Regardless, the main point is whether or not her parenting skills are better than her husband's, in which case I don't feel that there really is a comparison. We all have our flaws, and they play as much a role in who we are as our strengths. It's hard for us to play 2 very different roles in this situation. On one hand, you have to do everything you can to be caring and loving to the child, while also balancing your own feelings at being betrayed in such an inconceivable manner. There's no justification for this thing's actions. I say thing, because he has acted as anything but human. Assandra can only do her best in such an emotionally traumatic time, and I'd say she's done a damn fine job compared to the [For the sake of those with weak stomachs, I will not go off on the explicative filled tirade describing Assandra's current husband]

[Cassandre]

Thanks for standing up to me, Sammy.

As for whatever your name is, I'm sorry, I have no idea how to say that,

Did you not see that I spend all my spare time with her?Whenever I can, I tell her I love her, and everythings going to be okay, and you know what? She's just happy to be n France, see her relatives, and be away from Asstard.
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[Poecilotheria_27]

Not too many people can say my forum name, so don't feel bad.

I'm not at all trying to pick a fight or start any kind of conflict, just so you're aware of that. All of my text should be read in a calm fashion, as I'm calm as I type it.

But, I would like to put in my 2 cents seeing as how you asked in your primary post in this thread for feedback.

First off, you stated in another thread that you're suicidal. This, in itself, is a major red flag for raising a child. It shows several things about one's character. I'm not bashing you in any way, I couldn't do that as I don't know you. All I know is what I read on the internet. You should think twice about what you type on the internet in a public forum if you're about to go to court for a custody battle. This could be a MAJOR BULLET HEADED IN YOUR DIRECTION if the wrong person reads it.
With the above stated, you've threatened murder to your husband, you've threatened murder to people even within this forum. I'm sure it was a joke, but its not about that, its about what they can prove.

You've married a guy for a green card. I don't know what you expect to happen here, but you had it coming. This also means that you've taken a child into an unhealthy relationship, I'm sure you didn't have much of a choice and you did step up to the plate when you needed to, and for that you have my respect. But, the fact is that you did marry for the wrong reason. I'm sure you know that.

You say that she cries on your shoulder and that its the end of the world for her... , you need to be stronger for her and keep a calm spirit. Calm is confidence, confidence is security. Security is the key to a happy child.
Remember that kids don't have the time to worry about adult bull shit, they have time to worry about kid stuff.

You should have NEVER told her to call him any names at any time. Thats not what you want to teach a kid no matter what your personal feelings are for someone. This isn't about you, this is about the child. Don't pollute the kid's mind with your personal bullshit.

In my opinion, you should look at things in a more logical level, take the emotion out of it for the child's sake and stick to the facts. As I see this, the facts are in your favor and you shouldn't have any problem getting custody.

If this guy knows you, he's going to see that you have a temper and are going to exploit it to his benefit. Watch out for that.

[xxthalexx]

Shit, im sorry to say but i agree with all of that ----^
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[Cassandre]

First, I have to give you praise: you did your reasearch.

OK I'm sorry about this, but PC(I'm just calling you that), I'm going into lawyer mode.


When reading documents, (i.e. the suicidal, the homicidal) you need to pay attention to the entire thing, not just the part. My neice was taken into my custody AFTER I was suicidal, and you should know this.

I have threatened to murder my husband for these reasons, all of which hav not been stated within this thread: 1. he has threatened the life of myself, 2. he has threatened the life of my child, and 3. he has destroyed our personal belongings, for reasons unknown to any but him.

I have stated before, that marrying him for the green card, was his idea, not mine. Aforementioned, also, is the fact that he was kind, and considerate. Another aforementioned fact, is that once given a chance at my money, he took it. Here is seen a drastic personality change.

As for the unhealthy relationship, my neice was not in my custody when we were first married. Her mother and father[Thalia and Frederick Sorows] died in an automobile collision two[2] weeks after my announcement that I had recieved my green card. Our relationship was as friends.

Now, I'm leaving lawyer mode, and going into cornered dog mode.

If anybody wants to know why I would go through such drastic measures to get a green card and be allowed in the States, I guess I should tell you why.

I was [word censored], by a man who was legally listed as dead. And not only was I [word censored] by him, I was [word censored] several times, over the course of three years.
I was pretty desperate to get out of France by that time, wouldn't you?

Now, I hope that you read and reply t these facts as calmly as I wrote them, PC.
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[Caroline]

((Hey Cassandre, I hope you don't mind, but... um... I do kinda want to give you a quick few things to toss around in your mind... mostly for cross-examination stuff.

I really didn't want to say anything, as it isn't any of my business, and this has got to be horrible for you. So... I didn't want to say anything.

And, I feel really lame posting something now, but I hope this might help you prepare yourself...

Please, I'm doing this to help, so... take what I say in the manner it is meant in. I kinda like you and your bouncy, ephemerial-ness... but doing so online, can be used against you in court. Especially if the other party knows about some of your hobbies and on-line avatars.

Next... it does not matter what the letter / post / journal says. It matters what the lawyer can get the jury to believe it says... so, PC is correct... even if your other posts are taken out of context, they aren't going to be presented that way. They're going to be presented in a way that shows you to be erratic and unfit for unsupervised parenting.

While it is normal, in the courts, to have the child live with the mother, there has been a significantly growing trend of either joint custody, or awarding custody to the father... and this is usually done when the father's legal team can present the mother as dangerous to herself and others... if he knows about your depression, and your past with it, that can be used against you to great effect... in fact, they could use that to actually sway a jury to take custody from you, so they can "help you", but putting you in an asylum where you can get better, before returning to being a mother.

Lastly, about the immagration aspect of it... right now, for better or worse, there is a big undercurrent of anger towards immagrents... so, while it might have been his idea to get you the green card, it can be just as easy for them to show the light that you were using the marriage for your own selfish gains, and that he's trying to do the best for the daugher. Presenting it in this way can get the jury to turn on you, seeing you as an "opportunist taking advantage of the compassion of another" and not as a "loving mother cornered by an abusive relationship"

A lawyer is going to be a partisan opposition... which means any way they can present data that makes you look bad, and him look good, they'll do. They won't lie, but it'll be the grandest bit of truth-twisting double-talking smoke-and-mirrors you've ever seen.

so... be ready for an ugly, fight... i'm hoping for the best for you.))

[Cassandre]

Caroline...Thank you, and I know, I'm in for a very bad fight, but..We think that I'll be able to get Cammilia, and full custody of her...

He doesn't actually know about my depression and the fact I was suicidal, he just thinks it was part of my...monthly time. I usually act depressed during those times, and I will usually move in with Cassie, his fiance, during the times it gets really bad. And, it does usually fall in with that, and my doctor just thinks its just a bad case of PMS.

And, if you compare me to my siblings...Her biological parents died in a car crash while they were drunk. And my younger sister, she is constantly going into Rehab.

Rob has been drunk several times around Cami and I, and he has attempted to hurt us. I will usually put her in her room, and tell her everything will be fine, and I go out there to stop him from hurting my baby. I have the scars, and the bruises to prove it. If its a choice between my life, or my daughters, I would sacrifice my life. That is the price I'm willing to pay, and if keeping my daughter means having a joint custody...I just don't know what I'll do... I just hope that I can keep my baby girl, and not have to have him see her...I'll stay in France, if I have to, if it just means I can keep her.
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[Marx-Paragon]

well, now im at a raare loss for words. does he know about your online life at this forum?(or any other forums/sites that he could use agianst you)
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[Cassandre]

Nope. I only use my laptop, and its encrypted. I'm a very private person, and he knows it. Theres no chance he can get onto this laptop.
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[Rune174]

I'm can't say I know Cassandre all too well, and everything ever heard from her was all but friendly towards everyone unless provoked otherwise. She has always been friendly towards the people here, more or less because everyone else is here too, so why is that we are putting her under the microscope here?

So far, anything that seemed 'threatening' she may have said is the fact that this is the 'net', where we can just vent towards people when we can't tell others face to face, rather than bottle it up and not say anything, which, in more cases, can be just as dangerous. Cassandre so far been open to everyone here, because there is more or less very friendly people here she could open up to, and now we have a practically nameless, faceless individual who puts up that one bit of scrutiny and now we all feel that doubt.

As far as I see it, there is simply two choices weighing how Cammilia could be in better in one of the other's hands:

1st Choice- The one man she is divorcing:

As far as I can see, we have all been told that Cammilia has absolutely no ties by blood to this man, bearing no ideas in mind of ever taking the time to see her real family. Second, she has no skills in speaking english, making the communication values forced if necessary. Next, the guy has no emotional attachments to the child, so if the child was to be in his care, there would be no guarantee that she would ever be happy with him. Monetary gain seems to be his agenda in mind in gaining custody. As far as I can tell, why the hell would this man ever be qualified to be her parent?

2nd Choice- The sister(Cassandre) fighting for custody:

Cassandre can be a violent person if necessary, but she has far more control shown in her demeanor here in the forums. That much is true, and though she has been considered.... suicidal, having this child would only improve her resolve to live because she has somebody to hold dear so she would not have to leave. Yes, she did marry for a green card as an opportunity to stay, so what? Does that make her a bad person because she wanted to be in a nice country to raise her child? I say not, it just meant that she is much like anybody else who wanted to be an american, and that everyone would have taken that same proposal if it had been any other woman doing the same thing.

Because she is related to the child by blood, she would have every connection within the family, and she would be close to all of them when necessary. The fact that she took her child and consoled her when she needed a shoulder to cry on was admirable, rather than shunning her or shook it off, hell she even took the child over to her home country just to do this right. Unlike my cynical friend PT, not everyone can remain calm these days, but nobody can say they know Cassandre unless they know her in person, and I would not judge her because of her quirks as a person here.
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[Symphony]

I haven't posted in your threads about your personal life before, because such threads tend to make me uncomfortable and I don't really know what to say to people in such threads.

And I'm sorry if I come across as a jerk now, but I'm really having some trouble figuring out your situation. I just took another look at your other threads, and I'm a bit confused by the short time between them. You began, I believe, with your thread about gettign a green card, in which you seemed to like your husband, saying, among other things, that he isn't a jerk and that he would never take advantage of you. Then you posted a new thread a couple of hours after your last post about your greencard, where you asked for a reason why you shouldn't kill yourself. Agan I got the impression that you were on good terms with your husband at this time, since you mentioned him having hidden all razors and such.

And then the day after your last post in your despression thread, you start this thread about your husband wanting custody of your niece, where you clearly show your hatred of the man. I'm just baffled by how quickly all of this is happening to you. You mention things like your niece crying every night because of all of this, and how you and your husband has contact with your lawyers. All of which suggests that this recent trouble has been going on for several days, which seems odd in light of your recent posts in other threads.

I'm really sorry for questioning you like this, but I'm interested in knowing when your niece was given into your custody? Has she been with you during all the time you've been posting here?

and when did you marry your husband and was rewarded a greencard? Did you know the man before all of this, and had you noticed anything at all that would sugegsts this recent change in his behaviour?

I just feel that I'm missing some pieces to properly figure out when everything happened in relation to the other things, and again I'm sorry if I come across as mean or uncaring by this post.
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